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How to move on from divorce

When you and your partner have made the decision to divorce, thinking about what comes after may be daunting. After a divorce, a new life awaits you. This prospect can be worrisome and understandably so. But one thing to remember is to stay calm and organise how you will adjust to this big change. 

couple showing desperation and anger woman sitting and man standing thinking about divorce

Divorce solicitor, Carole Nettleton, has helped to create this guide on how to move on from divorce.

 

Remember That You Are Not Alone

A crucial thing to remember after the divorce process is over is that you are not alone in this. Many people have gone through divorce and they will know exactly how you feel. Divorce is a lonely and emotionally distressing experience that can be very hard to move on from. 

Remembering that others have gone through this experience and come out of the other side better than before could help you with how you’re feeling.

During this difficult time, reaching out to your friends and family can make you feel less isolated and alone. Feeling the love from those around you can remind you that you have people by your side, even during this isolating period. 

If you are feeling particularly lonely and isolated during this time, consider joining a support group. There will be many online support groups for people in the same boat as you, why not give it a try?

 

Practise Self Care

One of the most important things you can do after a divorce is to look after your mind, body, and soul. Following self care tips can help you do this successfully. After an emotionally distressing life event like a divorce, prioritising looking after yourself is vital. Practising simple self care rituals to keep on top of things can make you feel much better.

Here are a few self care tips to follow to help you move forward from a divorce.

 

Practise a hobby: finding a hobby you love can do wonders for your mental health. If you’re into reading, buy a book in your favourite genre and set a time to start reading it. If you’re into sports then join a class near you. Finding enjoyment in something you love is the ultimate form of self care.

 

Make time for yourself: this self care tip needs to be a priority! Going through a divorce takes up a lot of time and energy, now that the process is over and you’re ready to move on, it’s important to make time for yourself. Schedule in some me-time at least once a month for self care purposes.  

 

Maintain a healthy routine: after a difficult time, it’s important to get back into a healthy routine. Try to form a new routine that involves mindfulness, it’s known to significantly improve mental health and wellbeing. 

 

Buy a Self Help Book

It’s completely natural to not be feeling yourself after a divorce. One way you can help yourself move forward is to seek the help of experts in this area. The easiest way to do this is by reading a self help book full of advice and tips on how to cope. 

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Monica Costa founded London Mums in September 2006 after her son Diego’s birth together with a group of mothers who felt the need of meeting up regularly to share the challenges and joys of motherhood in metropolitan and multicultural London. London Mums is the FREE and independent peer support group for mums and mumpreneurs based in London https://new.londonmumsmagazine.com and you can connect on Twitter @londonmums
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