If we consider our clitoris as holy, (it’s felt slutty for a very long time) then there will be a liturgy surrounding its worship. The Good Sex rituals we like that we know best, our ‘Cliturgy’. It’s all very fine us knowing our clit inside out; do our partners? It’s a difficult discussion to have at the best of times, made worse by conflicting views as to how many there are, their locations, sizes and shapes.
Surprisingly, there’s been a debate in academic circles for over 100 years… and no wonder no progress was made, given the demographic of The Erudite at that time… And what woman would want to become their specimen anyway? On p.79 of Liv Stromquist’s blow-it-all-open book ‘Fruit of Knowledge’ which I have given to my daughter to read, there’s an in-your-face diagram which you would think is as reliable a source as any for cross-referencing with one’s own ordinance. But here’s the thing – it doesn’t correspond.
The Clitoris according to Fruit of Knowledge, by Liv Stromquist, p79
The Clitoris according to Fruit of Knowledge, by Liv Stromquist, p79
She mentions a ‘debate’ about ‘clitoral orgasm (CO)’ vs ‘vaginal orgasm (VO), and I ask myself – DEBATE? Of course there’s two! They exist in parallel and are different in their locations, approaches and effects. CO is hyper-sensitive, short-lived, superficial and multiple. VO is slow-burn, deep-vein, longer, and once-only. In my humble opinion, you need to hit the VO first for the tsunami, then the CO for the aftershocks. An example of Cliturgy for you.
But Stromquist has only one ‘glans clitoris’, the pressure point of the CO. I’m going to contribute to science here and rename it: ‘glans clitoris superior’. What is absent from the diagram is the location of the Vaginal orgasm pressure point VOPP. We all know it’s deep, at the opening to the vagina, around the urethra. One orgasm does not trigger the other, each needs to be wooed differently and separately. So there should be a ‘glans clitoris inferior’ there somewhere… Stromquist’s ‘single wishbone’ design is simply pedalling old inaccuracies. Any women reading this, back me up will you?!
Front cover of Liv Stromquist’s ‘Fruit of Knowledge’ – Published by Virago £14.99
How is it that the ‘glans clitoris inferior’, which triggers the best O of all, has remained incognito? Is it our reticence to let our partners know, or their arrogance, that if you can’t see it, it’s not there. If men and thus science can’t get it right, what hope for your partner? So to get yourself a good VO followed by multiple COs with a partner, lots of patient explanation and hand-holding will be required. You will not be believed at first, because the VO is, as we see, scientifically non-existent. We are partly to blame for this ignorance. Women need to stand up and tell the patriarchy that we’ve put up with rushed, superficial service for millennia and it’s time to do the job properly by listening to the experts. Us.
That’s my view. Monica‘s is quite different. She tells me there are 4 O-spots and the game is to trigger them all at once!
In Part 2, we will investigate obstacles to communicating your all-important Cliturgy to the Patriarchy , beginning with an analysis of your relationship type. I will offer precious little useful advice on how to get from where you are to where you wish to be, because you don’t need advice, you need to work it out on your own.
