Organisation probably isn’t at the top of your list when you decide to work from home. For many years, it wasn’t mine either. I simply threw myself into it, and hoped it would work. Somehow! I knew I wanted to earn money working from home so that I could be ‘hands on’ with the kids, but didn’t have a clue where or how to start.
Disorganised home-working
Armed with marketing and copywriting skills honed at my investment bank employer, I sat my bot down on a dining room chair, perched the laptop on a corner of the dining room table and set to the task of introducing my new virtual support “business” to local small businesses, friends, colleagues and anyone else polite enough to listen.
But working in the corner of the dining room hasn’t been conducive to a productive work environment at all. Over the years, I’ve had to cope with the Telly Tubbies, the Tweenies, Upsy-Daisy in her Night Garden and Mickey Mouse’s Clubhouse Gang ruining my train of thought throughout the day.
Evenings haven’t been much better. My husband ‘needs’ to listen to the news on the hour every hour while he’s at work, so guess who gets his take on the most recent update as soon as he walks in through the front door.
Add to this, the general footfall of people popping in and out as they tend to in our neck of the woods (“just thought I’d pass by to say hello, seeing as you’re a full-time mum now”). Me perched in full view of everyone just seemed to scream “I’M HERE IF YOU NEED ME. I’M ONLY TINKERING AWAY.”
Of course, no-one other than my delighted clients (wink) took me seriously.
- Firstly, I’ve learnt to stop beating myself up about productivity. I am a freelancer myself, so have clients that I need to look after. Obviously, their work comes first, but even then, I’ve learnt not to over-promise (“I’ll definitely get that to you by close of play today”) in case I under-deliver!
- I make sure I give myself plenty of wriggle room to allow for inevitable interruptions – which incidentally, is one good reason why as a Freelancer or Contractor, it’s best to charge for the project and not by the hour.
- More importantly, I’ve learnt that work and home life just don’t ‘work’ – at least not for me. I have found that it is absolutely vital to draw a clear line between the two – whether that line is a physical boundary such as a home office door where you shut yourself away when you need to, or clear times when you start/stop.
- I now focus my working ‘day’ during the day when the kids are at school/nursery and then catch up when they are in bed. For me, it’s impossible to try to do anything when they’re around.
- And when I start to fret that I haven’t done as much as I wanted to, I remind myself of the reason why I decided to work from home in the first place – to be more hands on with the kids. They come first!
What about your home-working life? Have you got it down to a T yet?
As another ‘mumpreneur’ of three young kids seeking the work-life balance, I totally relate to your post. Getting a business off the ground is hard work though, isn’t it? It’s really tricky to strike that balance when so much time and energy needs to be put into gathering some momentum. It’s especially difficult for the kids to understand that when the childminder is home with them, and Mummy is in her ‘office’, they’re not supposed to come barging in complaining about all sorts when I’m in the middle of an important conference call! It’s a rollercoaster but I’m still loving it, and (in between the odd grumble) the kids have even told me they’re proud of me for just going for it. I hope that they will see me as a positive role model, no matter where the journey takes me. You’ve just gotta be in it to win it, right? Thanks for sharing Mary… nice to know I’m not alone!
Bless you Tes, I know how tricky it all is. My mum keeps reminding me that the kids don’t stay little forever. So true. My eldest “baby” is now in secondary school, and I honestly don’t know where the time has gone. Juggling work and family life does get slightly easier as they become more independent. But then of course, once they become older, you have a different set of challenges to cope with. So it’s never perfect. But as you said, you still love it, because at least this way, you are totally in control. Take care for now, x Mary
Tes thanks for sharing your feelings. I totally relate to your scenario. I had so many ‘noisy’ conference calls. But when at the other end of the telephone there’s another mumpreneur there is total understanding! Mary and I know so much about this, don’t we Mary?! 🙂
LOL that is so true Monica. 🙂 x M